The question for the ages is “what do women want?” Books have been written about it, panel discussions have attempted to answer the question, and neighborhood barbershops are abuzz with it every weekend, but no one knows the answer.The answer is unique to every woman. The series Being Mary Jane finale episode was on the other night. The lead character Mary Jane was being romanced by an older man. He prepared a special “Aladdin inspired” dinner for her. he decorated the patio area and used candles of various sizes to light the area. For all his efforts he was rewarded by hearing her describe his work as “corny”. Her callous matter of fact response left me asking the question “what does she want?” Too often men are bashed for doing nothing, but too often women trash their efforts when they do too much. So what is the answer? Share your thoughts.
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“In an intense and stressful moment, I allowed my emotions to get the best of me and said some insulting and regrettable things. As frustrated as I was, I should always choose to be respectful and take the high road. I am so sorry for my actions and will learn from this mistake.”–Britt McHenry
When is an apology not an apology? When it is not directed at the person you wronged. Britt McHenry’s epic, insulting rant was directed at a towing company employee. Her car was towed and she was mad, but she was not ranting about the tow she was insulting the worker. So instead of issuing an apology via Twitter she needs to be apologizing to the worker the recipient of the rant.
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Miriam Carey and Doug Hughes both entered restricted Capitol space so why was Hughes able to walk away?
Two very different results. Miriam Carey drove into restricted Capitol space and she was killed by Capitol police. Shot 5 times while her 14 month old sat strapped into her car seat. She was shot as she tried to drive away. Yesterday Doug Hughes flew his “gyrocopter” onto the Capitol grounds. Hughes’ aircraft was undetected by NORAD. He blogged about this event over the past year. He was not shot down. He entered undeterred. He was arrested and led away. Maybe if Carey had entered on a “gyrocopter” she might still be here.
Yesterday several Atlanta teachers and administrators received jail sentences for their roles in the Atlanta cheating scandal. The judge vilified the teachers and administrators. What they did was bad there is no argument about it, but were the teachers the only ones responsible for the children’s education? I saw a mother lamenting that her daughter was taking remedial classes in college because of what was done to her in the Atlanta school system, but my question is why didn’t her mother know she had difficulty with her school work? Parents are the children’s first teachers. How many parents read to their children before they could read? how many parents would sit and let their small school age children read to them? Were the Atlanta parents active participants in their children’s education? How many of the parents now complaining every went to a PTA meeting or a parent/teacher conference? No one is excusing what the teachers did but when looking for the people who failed the students some of the parents need to also fault the man/woman in the mirror.
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This weekend I traveled to Alabama by car. A road trip gives you an opportunity to see the country. To actually see the stark contrast between urban and rural lifestyles. You go from traffic jams to seeing cows meander in the fields, but you also hear and see other contrasts. While traveling back we were listening to a local shock jock who played what he called an “Ebonic Airline Worker” delivering the take off instructions. To say the routine was offensive would be a gross understatement. He played the clip and moved on with his broadcast. We were stunned, but apparently this was the norm for his show. The airwaves were also populated by a number of talk shows that ruthlessly bashed the president. The landscape was populated by huge cross symbols and plenty of confederate flags. We were 1000 miles from home. In the same country but in a part of the country with a distinctively different point of view.
Walter Scott was pulled over for a broken taillight. Why did he end up dead. According to Officer Michael Slager Scott was shot because the officer feared for his life. The tape seems to suggest something far different. Slager has been charged with murder. Thank God for the video.
Boisterous-Rough and noisy, noisily jolly or rowdy; clamourous; unrestrained. This is the word that the pool reporters have used to describe the church service the President attended yesterday at the Alfred Street Baptist Church in Alexandria, VA. Traditional black churches do have lively services often punctuated with music, dance and testimony, but it is not strange it is simply different, but not “boisterous”.
Fox Chris Wallace recently took a potshot at Kelly Clarkson. Clarkson recently had a baby and she has not shed the baby weight, but that’s really her business. The rest of the world feels they have a right to criticize her weight and Wallace is the latest talking head to take a shot at the pop star. Clarkson is not the first nor will she be the last woman to be criticized for her weight, her age or simply her looks. Sarah Wallace, former WABC (NY) was recently fired. This award=winning newswoman is 59 years old, and that is old for a woman, but it is seasoned for a man. Woman in their 50s are consider old and men in their 50s are not painted with that same brush. Hillary Clinton will soon announce she is running for the highest office in the land, but we know that there will be considerable talk about her hair, her makeup and her clothes. The male candidates will not receive the kind of scrutiny that Clinton has and will receive. Fat shaming, hair shaming, look shaming all are a part of the life of a woman. Share your thoughts.
Chris Wallace Apology: http://www.people.com/article/chris-wallace-apology-kelly-clarkson-weight