Tag Archives: Women

Mo’Ne Davis called slut by Bloomsburg University Baseball Player…he is kicked off the team, and she ask team to give him a second chance

Disney is making a movie about Mo’Ne Davis the baseball sensation when Bloomsberg University player Joey Casselberry heard it he took to Twitter and called Davis a “slut”. He was dropped from the team and Davis asked the University to give him another chance. The University stands by its decision but the bigger question for me is why would a college student refer to a child as a slut. The word is ugly, but I wonder if he meant it in its truest sense of is this just the coursening of our language? Did he actually think the tweet was acceptable or is this just a 140 character fail?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/03/23/mone-davis-tweet_n_6923590.html

Empire, you had me until the girl fight

Tonight we like millions of people watched the Empire finale. I have enjoyed this show. It has been a hilarious, over the top, escape from reality. Big personalities, crazy plots, dysfunctional families and memorable music, but tonight it was punctuated with violence. Why did “Boo Boo Kitty” and Cookie have to fight each other? I am sure many people greeted this fight with laughs and high fives, but did this need to happen? Last week we saw several girls viciously beat a girl at a NY Mcdonald’s. The fight was taped and has been seen all over the world. The girls involved have been arrested and they are facing the possibility of extended time in jail. If you have seen the tape you will see their behavior was also greeted by laughs and camera phones. Some will say the Empire fight was almost comic relief, but two black women fighting should never be a punch line, and it will only stop if we stop laughing.

Has BET Being Mary Jane simply become another bitter black woman?

Last year when Mary Jane premiered on BET the character seemed to have a great career, a great home,  problematic family and a challenged personal life, but she was likeable. Sure she made some ill advised decisions, and in some cases they were simply dumb, but you still rooted for her. You wanted her to find that true love that simply alluded her, but this season is an entirely new ballgame. There is a thin line between the strong, black woman and the bitter black woman. The strong woman has obstacles in her life but she is a survivor. She is going to get it done, and she is simply not going to take no for an answer, but she knows things will get better because she is going to make it happen. There is a slippery slope from strong to bitter and this season Mary Jane has taken that slippery side and she is simply bitter. She is a woman in the midst of a self imposed war. Her adversaries are everyone in her life. She is at war with her on and off again love David, her family and her job. She has no allies and those who might want to be she has shut the door to their advances. The show is no longer fun. It is angst ridden and anxiety producing. Last night was simply sad. Some might call it a slice of life and if it is you can keep my slice.

McDonald’s Brawl: What should happen to these girls?

How did you feel when you watched the tape of the girl fight in the McDonald’s in Brooklyn? If you were repulsed then join the club, but millions of viewers seemingly enjoyed watching the girls give a 15 year old a beat down. The media is saying that this was gang related. Well that explains it. Except it does not. How did these girls arrive at this intersection? At what point did they think this kind of violence was acceptable? The disturbing thing is this type of violence is becoming more and more common. The ringleader of the girl gang has a history of violence which includes stabbing her brother and beating up her grandmother. If she treats her own family this way she truly had not problem inflicting pain on an enemy. So what is going to happen to this 16 year old and her band of delinquents? She is currently being held on $500,000 bond. Sure they will be tried in the courts and they will probably serve some time but is that the answer? Lock them up and throw away the key? So when they get out they are older and more bitter? As a mother I wonder what should happen to these girls? They are still girls. Can they be helped? Do they need incarceration or counselling or both? The ringleader of the group has a child. What’s going to happen to her? What do you think? Share your thoughts

Pam Oliver will return to NFL Fox next season, she had the courage to take a step back and move forward

Last summer I read an article in Essence detailing how Pam Oliver was completing her last year on the sidelines for Fax NFL. She has been paired with Troy Aikmen and Joe Buck for years, but this year she was replaced by Erin Andrews. Oliver shared her hurt and disappointment but she worked her last year with another team and she impressed the suits at Fox. She gave it her all. She is an example that we should all follow. Yes there will be disappointment but to allow disappointment to effect your professionalism is career suicide. Oliver just signed a two year contract and she will continue providing sideline commentary for the network. Read the linked story and share your thoughts.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/early-lead/wp/2015/03/10/pam-oliver-will-return-to-nfl-sidelines-for-fox-after-all/

NY Girls Savagely beat girl as others watch and tape it on their phones


When you watch this tape you feel for the victim. There is nothing that she could have done or said that would justify this savage beating. That is bad enough but what is equally if not more disturbing is to see all the people who watched this. No one including the McDonald’s crew felt the need to aid the victim. So you don’t want to get involved, but you want to tape? SMH

Curt Schilling’s Brilliant Takedown of Twitter Trolls

Read linked story and share your thoughts.
https://38pitches.wordpress.com/2015/03/01/the-world-we-live-in-man-has-it-changed/

Why did #TheDress capture the world’s attention?

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Last night my daughter asked me to look at a picture of a dress and tell her the color. I mistakenly thought she was planning on buying the dress. Little did I know that I was part of a global fascination. I was stunned to get up today and find they were discussing #TheDress on all the major networks. Everyone was being asked what color do you think it is? The verdict is the dress is blue and black. The real question is not the color of the dress but how did this capture worldwide attention? Maybe we’re in search of a harmless distraction. In this world of Isis, Congressional Showdown, Drive by shootings, Political corruption and everything else just maybe #TheDress gave us a few minutes fun.

Guest Post: 7 Must Ask Questions in Any Negotiation by Eldonna Lewis-Fernandez

A negotiation is nothing more than a discussion through which both parties seek to formulate and settle upon a mutually beneficial agreement, whether this agreement is a multi-million dollar contract or simply at which restaurant to meet for dinner. Our daily professional and personal lives are riddled with negotiations, those across a boardroom table, the kitchen table and everywhere in between.

But, what sets a successful negotiator—one who comes out on top in deal-making more often than not—apart from those who struggle to gain advantages? Of course, there are numerous strategies one can employ to improve their chances of emerging victorious in a negotiation, and paramount among these is asking just the right kind of questions—those that will elicit answers that facilitate a win for all parties involved.

With this in mind, here are 7 “must ask” questions in any negotiation to best ensure a desirable outcome:

1. Would you explain the reasons for your position?
If you can’t clearly understand the other party’s reasoning through simple discussions, the best way to discern the other parties position and motivations on deal points is to directly ask them their rationale for what they are offering or seeking. Once you know the other party’s thought process and justifications, rather than just the outcome they desire, you can better adjust your strategy and response to coincide with their position. For instance, in a scenario where the other party is requiring some advance payment that doesn’t sit well with you, you might find out that they need the funds at this initial juncture to fund required material or other costs in order to put the arrangement in motion. Once you understand the logic behind requests and demands relating to a deal structure, you are better able to control discussions and create agreeable terms.

2. Is there any reason you can’t?
This is a great question to ask when you know the other party is avoiding or rejecting your offer for no legitimate reason or not having thought it through well enough. Sometimes people make shallow excuses for why they can’t do something or shoot down an idea with short-sighted objections. Most often when the question is asked this way, the other party has a hard time coming up with truly legitimate reasons that effectually negate your argument or offer. In instances where the other party does happen to come up with a viable objection, you now have the opportunity to directly address, and hopefully overcome, that objection with sound reasoning of your own.

3. Why do you think this is a fair and reasonable term or condition?
A fair and reasonable term or condition, such as a price, proposal or provision, can be defined as what’s prudent under competitive market conditions, given a reasonable knowledge of the marketplace. Fair implies a proper balance of conflicting or divided interests. Reasonable means not extreme or excessive. So a fair and reasonable term or condition is one that is balanced between all parties and somewhat moderate. If you are concerned about the reasonableness of an offer, do some due diligence to research comparables. Then ask the opposing party this question to encourage them to define and defend the reasonableness of their requirement. This will help assure you are securing the best deal possible.

4. Why is that point or provision important?
Understanding the significance of a specific point or provision is imperative, and can even result in an adjustment of your own position. The answer the other side provides will allow you to fine tune your strategy based on this key learning about their critical priorities and values. Understanding, acknowledging and validating the significance of the opposing party’s requests can not only help you recalibrate your approach, but also create more of a team atmosphere or affinity that builds a level of trust at a faster pace.

5. What part of my proposal gives you the most concern?

This can apply to a large contract negotiation, a job offer or handling an issue with a family member. Breaking an offer down into individual elements or points makes it easier to take things in small bite-size pieces versus one large chunk that, on the whole, is causing kickback. Discussing a proposal point-by-point, particularly specific areas of utmost concern, allows the parties to come to small fractional agreements that may not otherwise have been reached if you discussed the arrangement as a whole. Dealing directly with the most difficult deal points in triage mode—from the most to least problematic for the other side—shows you care. This can get you past those sticking points and greatly expedite the entire process.

6. What documentation or proof do you have to validate your position?

You may have heard the adage “Trust but Verify.” It’s important to know that what is being presented is 100% factual. The best way to determine authenticity is by verifying the facts through documentation that validates what is being presented. A trusting nature will not serve you well in a negotiation where decisions are being made based on certain claims. It’s imperative to secure documentation to back up applicable assertions. And, while cliché, it’s often true: if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. There is an important place for skepticism in a negotiation in that it’ll fuel your need for verification prior to officiating an agreement or signing on the dotted line. Once that ink is dry, undoing a deal, however disingenuous, is far more difficult and quite unpleasant.

7. What else do you think I should know?

After you’ve asked all of the questions you intended and can’t think of any other, but you still want to ensure you have thoroughly vetted the arrangement, asking this question may induce some other points that you haven’t uncovered or considered through prior discussions and the negotiation process. There could be something you don’t know that, once revealed, might actually change your way of thinking, what you are seeking, or the strategy you originally started with.

In any negotiation, however large or small, direct communication with open ended questions is vital. People often don’t ask such questions because they fear rejection or how they will be perceived. Even asking just these 7 powerful questions above will help ensure that the agreement you reach is not only in your best interest, but also fair and reasonable for all involved.

Veteran negotiation and contracts expert Eldonna Lewis-Fernandez, author of “Think Like a Negotiator,” has over 30 years of experience crafting killer deals both stateside and internationally, many in excess of $100 million. She’s currently the CEO of Dynamic Vision International—a specialized consulting and training firm that helps individuals hone negotiation skills—as well as a nationally regarded keynote speaker, session leader and panelist on the Art of Negotiation.Eldonna may be reached online at http://www.ThinkLikeANegotiator.com.

Giuliana Rancic’s sincere apology to Zendaya


This is what a real apology sounds like.

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