Last night SNL took a “funny” look at Isis recruitment. Did they go too far? Read the linked story and share your thoughts.
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A negotiation is nothing more than a discussion through which both parties seek to formulate and settle upon a mutually beneficial agreement, whether this agreement is a multi-million dollar contract or simply at which restaurant to meet for dinner. Our daily professional and personal lives are riddled with negotiations, those across a boardroom table, the kitchen table and everywhere in between.
But, what sets a successful negotiator—one who comes out on top in deal-making more often than not—apart from those who struggle to gain advantages? Of course, there are numerous strategies one can employ to improve their chances of emerging victorious in a negotiation, and paramount among these is asking just the right kind of questions—those that will elicit answers that facilitate a win for all parties involved.
With this in mind, here are 7 “must ask” questions in any negotiation to best ensure a desirable outcome:
1. Would you explain the reasons for your position?
If you can’t clearly understand the other party’s reasoning through simple discussions, the best way to discern the other parties position and motivations on deal points is to directly ask them their rationale for what they are offering or seeking. Once you know the other party’s thought process and justifications, rather than just the outcome they desire, you can better adjust your strategy and response to coincide with their position. For instance, in a scenario where the other party is requiring some advance payment that doesn’t sit well with you, you might find out that they need the funds at this initial juncture to fund required material or other costs in order to put the arrangement in motion. Once you understand the logic behind requests and demands relating to a deal structure, you are better able to control discussions and create agreeable terms.
2. Is there any reason you can’t?
This is a great question to ask when you know the other party is avoiding or rejecting your offer for no legitimate reason or not having thought it through well enough. Sometimes people make shallow excuses for why they can’t do something or shoot down an idea with short-sighted objections. Most often when the question is asked this way, the other party has a hard time coming up with truly legitimate reasons that effectually negate your argument or offer. In instances where the other party does happen to come up with a viable objection, you now have the opportunity to directly address, and hopefully overcome, that objection with sound reasoning of your own.
3. Why do you think this is a fair and reasonable term or condition?
A fair and reasonable term or condition, such as a price, proposal or provision, can be defined as what’s prudent under competitive market conditions, given a reasonable knowledge of the marketplace. Fair implies a proper balance of conflicting or divided interests. Reasonable means not extreme or excessive. So a fair and reasonable term or condition is one that is balanced between all parties and somewhat moderate. If you are concerned about the reasonableness of an offer, do some due diligence to research comparables. Then ask the opposing party this question to encourage them to define and defend the reasonableness of their requirement. This will help assure you are securing the best deal possible.
4. Why is that point or provision important?
Understanding the significance of a specific point or provision is imperative, and can even result in an adjustment of your own position. The answer the other side provides will allow you to fine tune your strategy based on this key learning about their critical priorities and values. Understanding, acknowledging and validating the significance of the opposing party’s requests can not only help you recalibrate your approach, but also create more of a team atmosphere or affinity that builds a level of trust at a faster pace.
5. What part of my proposal gives you the most concern?
This can apply to a large contract negotiation, a job offer or handling an issue with a family member. Breaking an offer down into individual elements or points makes it easier to take things in small bite-size pieces versus one large chunk that, on the whole, is causing kickback. Discussing a proposal point-by-point, particularly specific areas of utmost concern, allows the parties to come to small fractional agreements that may not otherwise have been reached if you discussed the arrangement as a whole. Dealing directly with the most difficult deal points in triage mode—from the most to least problematic for the other side—shows you care. This can get you past those sticking points and greatly expedite the entire process.
6. What documentation or proof do you have to validate your position?
You may have heard the adage “Trust but Verify.” It’s important to know that what is being presented is 100% factual. The best way to determine authenticity is by verifying the facts through documentation that validates what is being presented. A trusting nature will not serve you well in a negotiation where decisions are being made based on certain claims. It’s imperative to secure documentation to back up applicable assertions. And, while cliché, it’s often true: if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. There is an important place for skepticism in a negotiation in that it’ll fuel your need for verification prior to officiating an agreement or signing on the dotted line. Once that ink is dry, undoing a deal, however disingenuous, is far more difficult and quite unpleasant.
7. What else do you think I should know?
After you’ve asked all of the questions you intended and can’t think of any other, but you still want to ensure you have thoroughly vetted the arrangement, asking this question may induce some other points that you haven’t uncovered or considered through prior discussions and the negotiation process. There could be something you don’t know that, once revealed, might actually change your way of thinking, what you are seeking, or the strategy you originally started with.
In any negotiation, however large or small, direct communication with open ended questions is vital. People often don’t ask such questions because they fear rejection or how they will be perceived. Even asking just these 7 powerful questions above will help ensure that the agreement you reach is not only in your best interest, but also fair and reasonable for all involved.
Veteran negotiation and contracts expert Eldonna Lewis-Fernandez, author of “Think Like a Negotiator,” has over 30 years of experience crafting killer deals both stateside and internationally, many in excess of $100 million. She’s currently the CEO of Dynamic Vision International—a specialized consulting and training firm that helps individuals hone negotiation skills—as well as a nationally regarded keynote speaker, session leader and panelist on the Art of Negotiation.Eldonna may be reached online at http://www.ThinkLikeANegotiator.com.
Fashion Police is simply Mean Girls on Steroids, so why are we surprised when they say something mean?
Giuliani Rancic insulted Zendaya on Monday night’s Fashion Police. Twitter lit her up and she apologized. Kelly Osbourne her co-host threatened to quit and the show is off until the next special event. The irony of this situation is this entire show is about insults and snide remarks. It is a funny thing that insults are funny when they are not directed toward you. Fashion Police is not the only show that takes vicious swipes at people. The late Joan Rivers once took a swipe at a pregnant woman. She never apologized. Today the ladies on CBS The Talk were discussing the issue and Sheryl Underwood brought up Rancic’s struggle with infertility. Really? All is fair in the war for ratings. What is of limits? Is there a line in the sand anymore? We have been talking about this for a couple of days and it will die down, but do we actually learn anything from there teachable moments? If we don’t we can just wait for the next teachable moment we already know we won’t learn anything form that one either.
Are people lying more or are they just getting caught quicker. Robert McDonald, head of Veterans Affairs is the latest one to be caught up by his tongue. he claimed to have been in Special Forces. He later admitted that was not true. So he lied. Is this another so what moment or just another lie. What do you think? No big deal? Share your thoughts.
Racist or ridiculous? Share your thoughts.
Mitzi Miller resigned from her position at Ebony magazine today. She says she will be pursuing other opportunities. Ebony is a magazine in flux. Recently they have been attempting to sell famous photographs from their archives. This is being done in an attempt to raise money. Now the editor steps down. What’s next? Jet went from a weekly magazine to web based content to nothing. One wonders will Ebony experience a similar fate.
I saw this hashtag on Twitter and thought why would this be trending? I knew that “America’s Mayor” Giuilani had made the statement that the president did not love this country. When the president ran for office in 2008 he was called a terrorist, a secret Muslim and his citizenship was even questioned. The right has this assault of branding the president as “other”. No other president has been painted with brush. Sure all presidents are criticized, but their love of country is not questioned. We assume that if you yearn to lead this country than it is a safe bet that you love the country. How should the president show his love. Should he use the term “Muslim extremists”, will that show his All American credentials? Maybe if he stopped saying things like “if I had a son he would look like Trayvon”. Maybe if he stopped trying to engage young people by taking a selfie in the Oval Office he might not be viewed as “ghetto.” Yes all of these things added up might make him suspect…He might be the leader of the country who does love this country and it sad to see that we need a hashtag to prove it.
” I do not believe that the president loves America. He doesn’t love you. And he doesn’t love me. He wasn’t brought up the way you were brought up and I was brought up through love of this country.”-
– Former NYC Mayor Rudy Giuliani
Why can’t he simply disagree with the president? Why does he have to question his love of country? Share your thoughts.
Sunday night Eddie Murphy appeared on the SNL40 special, but he didn’t do anything comedic. He received some backlash for it but we have now found out why he did not make us laugh. He was asked to do a Bill Cosby impersonation and he refused. The reason is he did not want to kick a man while he was down, and Eddie that is admirable.