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Baylor Basketball Player LaceDarius Dunn suspended for Domestic violence Incident, but His Girlfriend Says He Didn’t Do it…Wonder Why?

LaceDarius Dunn is accused of pushing his girlfriend and breaking her jaw. Dunn has been suspended from the team. His girlfriend Lacharlesla Edwards claims he has never hit her. She has denied her jaw was broken and she says she went to the hospital for precautionary reasons. Edwards has appealed to Baylor to lift suspension placed on the team’s leading scorer. “I never expressed any interest in pressing charges nor will I in the future press charges on this incident. I am fine and my jaw is not broken as is being reported. My family and I wish to put this situation behind us. Lace and I will continue our relationship and raising our son in a good environment. I respectfully request that the District Attorney’s Office dismiss these charges, and further request that Baylor University lift their suspension.” “The woman’s father, Charles Edwards, told The Associated Press that his daughter didn’t have a broken jaw and that “somebody down there is trying to make a story out of nothing.” He went on to say that his daughter was “laughing and giggling” when he went to Waco after the alleged attack. “If something would have happened to my daughter, I would probably be in jail right now in Waco because I probably would have done something to that young man,” said Charles Edwards, who said his daughter is in Monroe. “In this case, she said they were playing, and that’s it.”   So if Dunn did hit her why would she and her family deny it? She and Dunn have been together for 10 years and they have a 3 year old son. If  Dunn does not play he might lose his golden ticket to the NBA and if he does not go pro nobody gets paid. So if she has to have her jaw wired so be it because if they play their cards right everybody wins. October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month too often the victims defend their abusers for economic reasons, and a career in the NBA falls into the category of an economic reason.


Why Do We Refuse to Recognize Domestic Abuse in the Church?

Bishop Thomas Weeks became a household name when he got into a fight with his then wife Evangelist Juanita Bynum. The fight took place in a hotel parking lot and an employee of the hotel intervened to stop the skirmish. At the time Bynum said that she was the new face of domestic violence. Since that time we have heard very little about the issue from Bynum. In March 2008 Weeks pled guilty to aggravated assault and was sentenced to 3 years probation and 200 hours of community service. At the time of the incident Weeks expressed remorse and said “My emotions got the best of me, and I take responsibility.” Fast forward to October 2009 and Weeks has married another prophetess Christina Glenn. In an interview on bet.com the new wife seemingly minimizes the abuse Weeks inflicted on his former wife. She refers to it as “losing your cool”. She describes the domestic violence incident as “the situation”. When people use euphemisms to describe abuse they minimize the seriousness of the situation. Too often in the church members make excuses for abusive leaders. Weeks pled guilty to assault, he did not plead guilty to a “situation”. October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and we have to stop closing our eyes to what we see in the pews of our churches. Weeks might have turned the page on his violent ways, but neither he or his new wife can whitewash what happened between him and Juanita Bynum.  That incident of abuse is chronicled in a Georgia courtroom.

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Do You Know Someone Who Is Being Abused? You Just Might

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, but did you also know it is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. I learned this fact a few years ago when I started doing freelance work for a non-profit organization. I never knew anyone that was being abused so it did not really impact my life, but I learned I did in fact know people who had been abused for years. We tend to think if a woman does not have a black eye or a broken arm she is ok. We are so visual that if we don’t see something it simply does not exist. A friend of mine who went to college with me married her college sweetheart. When I used to visit he was always teasing her to the point it became uncomfortable for me. I realized there was nothing funny about what he was doing. His put downs crushed her self esteem and that is what he wanted to do. At the time she was a stay at home mom and he was a corporate executive who wore expensive suits and all the fancy trimmings. She showed me a dress he had bought for her and it looked like it had come off the clearance table at a 5 and dime store. She said he said this is what she deserved because she didn’t work. All of this can be characterized as abuse. I am happy to say my friend finally through counseling has been able to regain her self-esteem and establish a relationship with her husband, that no longer includes verbal or psychological abuse. I also work with the women ministry at my church and one of the members who is a professional woman is married to a man who is also active in the church. I have learned through a 3rd party that this woman is a victim of physical abuse. She is not allowed to attend church other than with him. In efforts to reach out to these “silent victims” our ministry has had domestic violence experts come to the church to speak and the church has plans to include domestic violence kits to women who want them. One of the things we are learning is we had to develop a non-descript packet so that the abuser does not take the packet from the people reaching out for help. So this month maybe you can help a domestic violence agency in your area, or maybe you can talk to your minister about distributing some literature to your congregation. Everyone can do something because believe it or not you know someone who is impacted by domestic violence.