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You hire a nanny, and she kills your children…what’s a Mom to do?

A NY mother, Marina Krim hired a nanny. She and her husband spent time with this woman during the hiring process. She seemed like the perfect fit, but then she did the unthinkable. She stabbed two of their children to death and then attempted to kill herself. This is the kind of crime that makes all parents cringe. You never know what lurks in the hearts of men. The parents did nothing wrong. In fact they did everything right and still and this happened to them. Fortunately this is a horrific tragedy it is not the norm. Parents have to work and other people look out for your kids while you work. You’ve got to simply pray they are sane. share your thoughts.

Do you have a favorite child?

If you had a favorite child would you tell anyone? Read the linked story and share your thoughts.


The Chicago Teachers Strike from a parent’s point of view

We are reading and seeing so many people with opinions on the Chicago Teachers Strike. In so many narratives the teachers are the villians. The word “union” has become a dirty word, but it was through the unions that so many minorities became middle class so this demonization of their efforts is troubling. This morning I talked to a friend of mine in Chicago who has a child that is sitting at home today. This is her perspective of what is going on in Chicago.
“There is a new appraisal system. Looks like a lot rides on test scores and teachers can literally be fired if their class’ numbers aren’t where they should be. They want that revisited. They want the laid off teachers to be recalled when there are openings. Each year they close schools and/or do turnarounds so they want to be able to be hired at the new schools. I thought they currently could interview for openings in those “new” schools, but what do I know? They want more money to offset the longer day and the increase in health care costs. (They need a reality check) I think new teachers make $47K. There’s a lot in that $60K range. Also, I think both sides BS’ed too long. The state changed the laws and made it harder for teachers to strike. I think because they met those stricter requirements CTU has that “How you like me now attitude” and they are on strike because they can. On the flip side. If the school board can come up with $25million to open 144 schools for 5 hours to feed kids and other things as a part of the contingency plan, why not give some to the teachers. My son is pissed because any days missed for the strike have to be made up and he’s not feeling it. I’m fortunate that I don’t have younger kids that I’ve have to figure out what to do with. On one hand I get it, but they should have worked this s**t out at the bargaining table!!!!”

Gospel singer James Fortune sued for past abuse

If you are familiar with gospel music you have heard music by James Fortune. He is being sued for abusing his stepson ten years ago. Fortune held the then 4 year old in a scaldiing hot bath that has left the child permently disfigure. His wife is also being sued. As I read the linked story I was saddened by the horrific actions fortune took, but even more appalling is the mother allowing this man abuse her child.


Happy Father’s Day to Real Fathers, Real Men

Black fathers sometimes get a bad rap. The black fathers on the Maury Povich show will dance a jig when they hear those famous words “you are not the father”, but what is a father? If you meet a woman at the club and you have a one night stand with her and she gets pregnant are you a father? Sure you might qualify as a sperm donor, but at that point you do not have a real connection to that woman, and surely no connection to that child. Your intent was to have sex with the woman and now you find you have a connection that will at least last until that child is 18, but even if you do not feel a connection you do have a responsibility to that child, and today we celebrate the men who have stepped up and taken that responsibility to heart. We celebrate the fathers that are married and committed to their families. They are committed to teaching their sons how to be a man and how to treat a woman. We celebrate the fathers that are showing their daughters by their own deeds what kind of traits they should look for when they seek a mate. We celebrate the fathers that encourage their children to reach beyond their circumstances and strive toward success which is still attainable. It might be harder to attain, but it is not impossible to attain. I celebrate my grandfather who had the foresight to educate his 5 children in a time when most children did not finish high school. I celebrate my own father who worked hard all his life to give us a better life, and lastly I celebrate my husband who loves his children and teaches them on a daily basis how to walk up right and be the person God created them to be. So Happy Father’s Day to real fathers, real men.

StoryCorps launches oral history project, debuts A Family Man

StoryCorps launches America’s largest oral history project. Today, we debuted our brand new animated short, A Family Man. It’s a touching story that is sure to spark lively conversation about everyone’s childhood! In 1955, John L. Black, Sr. started his job as a janitor for the Cincinnati public school system. He regularly put in 16-hour days to provide for his wife and eleven children. At StoryCorps, his son Samuel talks with his wife, Edda Fields-Black, about his father’s lasting legacy and the power of a look.
Samuel’s interview is a part of StoryCorps Griot, an initiative to ensure that the voices, experiences, and life stories of African Americans will be preserved and presented with dignity. All interviews recorded as part of the Griot Initiative will be archived at the Smithsonian’s National Museum of African American History & Culture in addition to the American Folklife Center at the Library of Congress.

JC Penney’s Goes Gay Again

Last month JC Penney’s featured two moms and this month for Father’s Day they are featuring two dads. So what are they selling? A political agenda or clothing? Share your thoughts.

What do you think of the George Zimmerman apology?

“I wanted to say I am sorry for the loss of your son. I did not know how old he was. I thought he was a little bit younger than I am and I did not know if he was armed or not.” George Zimmerman Apology

Over 50 days after he killed Trayvon Martin George Zimmerman offers an apology. Who was this apology for? His parents? I don’t think so. He got the opportunity to express his “sorrow”, but he also got the opportunity to say he thought their 17 year old son was a grown man and he also got the opportunity to say he did not know if Martin was armed or not. So what was the purpose of the apology? To tell his side of the story without being cross examined.


Keep Books Alive with DoSomething.org and Pop/R&B Singer Keri Hilson

NEW YORK, NY –April 12, 2012 – DoSomething.org wants to save the written word and bring it into the lives of underprivileged kids, one book at a time. With help from Grammy nominated Keri Hilson, DoSomething.org is motivating teens and young people across the country to join in the second nationwide book drive from now until May to bring books to local people in need. This is going to be EPIC; the Epic Book Drive to be exact. Access to books continues to be a barrier in education equality. In fact, 61 percent of low-income families have no age-appropriate books at all in their homes for their children. “This may be a shocking statistic to some kids who have nightmares of endless summer reading lists,” said April Wright, campaign manager of Epic Book Drive. “DoSomething.org’s Epic Book Drive is an extraordinary opportunity to motivate teens to take action around education inequality and give their favorite books to others in need.” Running through May 18, the Epic Book Drive will urge students to lead book drives at their schools and in their communities. DoSomething.org will provide all the help they need to get these drives off the ground and reach success. After teens gather reading materials, they will donate the books to local organizations in need (i.e., Vietnam Veterans of America, Salvation Army, local shelters, etc.) across the country. It’s a win-win situation: young people get rid of old books lying around and underprivileged youth and families get access to books for free or at reduced prices. This campaign is building on the previous year’s success where teens and young people collected over 200,000 books for the New Orleans School District. This year’s campaign has an even bigger goal: to empower teens to collect 500,000 books for underprivileged communities in their local areas. To help reach that goal, Pop/R&B phenomenon Keri Hilson is taking a break from her hectic life as a triple threat to take her change-the-world mentality right to her teen fans’ local communities. By joining DoSomething.org to create a Public Service Announcement (PSA) for Epic Book Drive, Hilson is pushing kids of all ages to put their collection of used or unused books to good use. Hilson is no stranger to helping people in all walks of life. As the founder of the keriCARES! Foundation, she makes a constant effort to focus on her organization’s goal to better the wellbeing of the minds, bodies and souls of women of all ages. “Joining DoSomething.org’s newest effort to provide for people in need with Epic Book Drive was the easiest decision ever! I truly believe providing access to those who want to learn is the key to bettering lives around the country. And helping kids find healthy outlets, such as books, has always been a passion of mine. So my involvement here is a natural fit,” says campaign spokesperson, Keri Hilson. To view Keri Hilson’s PSA, please visit http://youtu.be/7QrJwfh9Wh8. To learn more about ‘Epic Book Drive,’ and how kids can get involved and/or register their own book drive, visit http://www.dosomething.org/epic or text EPIC to 38383.
About DoSomething.org:
We love teens. They are creative, active, wired…and frustrated that our world is so messed up. DoSomething.org harnesses that awesome energy and unleashes it on causes teens care about. Almost every week, we launch a new national campaign. The call to action is always something that has a real impact and doesn’t require money, an adult, or a car. With a goal of 5 million active members by 2015, DoSomething.org is one of the largest organizations in the US for teens and social change. Join us at http://www.DoSomething.org.

When did America turn on Trayvon Martin?

I remember the first time I heard Trayvon Martin’s parents share their story. You could feel their pain as they shared the details regarding the killing of their son, but what I also remember is you felt their pain, but you knew they were also angry. Who wouldn’t be angry in this situation, but you did not feel that anger was the fuel that was driving them in their search for justice. Why am I making this distinction between pain and anger? I am making the difference because people react differently to the two emotions. No one can debate your pain. No one can tell you that you have no right to feel pain, but anger is debatable. Anger has to be justified and that is when the story changed. When anger is introduced into a situation justification is not far behind. Trayvon Martin’s parents moved from studio interviews where they shared their story in an intimate almost sympathetic setting to addressing rallies that were attended by hundreds sometimes thousands of people and also every attendee had their own agenda. This is when the mood of the country started changing. This is when it seemed there were two media agendas: we had the media who had initially brought the case to the national stage, and you had the media who were on a mission to introduce the nation to the “real” Trayvon. “Gansta” Trayvon Martin. Not the little boy we saw in the delightful pictures. We started to see Facebook pictures of a “scary, gold-toothed” Trayvon. Some pictures that appeared on several right wing blog sites were not Trayvon, but by the time they were proven not to be him they had already achieved their goal. They had started to chip away at his image. We also learned Martin had been suspended from school. We basically learned that Martin was not the perfect victim, but he still was the victim nonetheless. Over the last few weeks we have watched the talking heads on both sides of the issue dominate the airwaves. We have heard some ask will this become just a moment or will it become a movement, but should it become a movement? Or should it just be what it should be pursuit of justice? Has Trayvon Martin gotten lost in the bright lights? The irony of this case is if the media had not forced the issue and brought this case to the national stage it might have been ignored, but now that same media has almost made this issue a polarizing event. The media did not do it alone they had plenty of help from everyone on both sides of the issue who see this as a catalyst change. They simply can not agree on the kind of change they are looking for.