Horrific Domestic Violence…Son accused of killing mother and grandfather

 

A friend of mine brought this story to my attention. Read the linked story and share your thoughts.

http://www.nbcnewyork.com/news/local/Homicide-Investigation-Springfield-New-Jersey-384622731.html

We knew Greg Hardy beat up his girlfriend, but why are we appalled when we see the photos?

Dallas Cowboy Greg Hardy beat up his girlfriend, but he is still in the NFL. He has been playing and the team stood by him, but Friday photos were released showing his brutality. Sports pundits are feigning indignation in light of the pictures. So his actions only became real when we could see them? Ray Rice knocked his fiancee out and got a 3 day suspension, but when the tape was released so was he. Chris Brown brutalized Rihanna, and when those photos were released he became the poster child for domestic violence. So its like when a tree falls in the forest an no one hears it did it really happen or matter? If we don’t see it even though the details are all there on the police report we are not convinced until we see the bruises. What does that say about us?

Roger Goodell says he made mistakes, but is that enough?

Roger Goodell came out of hiding today and faced the press, but he was low on specifics. Change is coming but he would not say what change would actually look like. He did the press conference on a Friday afternoon. He needed to speak and he did, but did we learn anything today?

The Curious Case of abuser US District Court Judge Mark Fuller

Interesting article.
http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/she-the-people/wp/2014/09/10/judge-arrested-in-wifes-beating-gets-slap-on-the-wrist-in-plea-deal/

What is the Purple Purse Challenge?

So many women are the victims of financial abuse. The Purple Purse challenge is designed to help them.

https://www.crowdrise.com/purplepursechallenge

Source says Ray Rice video was sent to NFL…who is lying?

http://bigstory.ap.org/article/ap-newsbreak-source-says-rice-video-sent-nfl

Is Ray Rice a victim of Big Screen Justice?

Yesterday the Baltimore Ravens cut Ray Rice after they saw the video of what happened in that NJ casino. When we saw Rice drag his then fiancée off the elevator what did we think happened? She didn’t faint. We could assume he knocked her out, but yesterday when we saw it on the big screen we could no longer keep our collective heads in the sand. We had to acknowledge the obvious, but where do we go from here? The media will talk about the Rice saga until the numbers dip, but what are we going to do? We sit and look at the videotape with horror, but where is that horror when we watch Love and Hip Hop. We see women fighting women, women fighting men and men fighting women and we watch this while devouring popcorn. We call this entertainment. Our young people watch these shows. One of my friends said her daughter thought the Rice situation was bad but she did not find it horrifying. I also saw an 18 year old young man being interviewed last night and he said women have to learn not to disrespect their man. He felt a man was justified to get physical if he believed he was being disrespected. So we need to talk to our young people about what domestic violence really is. Most violence is not played out on the big screen. It is generally done in private. It might be happening to your neighbors or your church members. Some people on your job who are ragging on Rice today might be abusers but you will never know. It is done behind closed doors and there are no cameras. Share your thoughts.

Stephen A. Smith was suspended by ESPN…was this the right call?

Stephen A. Smith was suspended from ESPN for his remarks regarding domestic violence. Was this the right move by the network?
http://www.si.com/nfl/2014/07/29/stephen-a-smith-suspension-espn-ray-rice?xid=aol_home&icid=maing-grid7%7Cmain5%7Cdl6%7Csec1_lnk2%26pLid%3D508596

Domestic Violence, Ray Rice and Us

Ray Rice is not the first NFL player to be involved in a domestic violence incident, but he might be the first to get this kind of national press. Yesterday the NFL handed Rice a two game suspension, but many are questioning if that is actually enough. A friend of mine made an interesting point regarding the Baltimore Ravens head coach John Harbaugh respone to the punishment. Harbaugh felt the punishment fit the crime, but what if Rice knocked Harbaugh’s wife unconscious? Would a two game suspension be enough? would he still think Rice was a “hecka of a guy” or would Rice have been immediately released from the team? Society has become highly sensitized to gay slurs, but where is that sensitivity regarding domestic violence? So often we see movies that use domestic violence as a punchline. In the movie This Christmas how many people laughed when the Regina King character puts baby oil on the floor and beats her husband with a belt as he tries to walk on the slippery floor after a shower. Or who felt the character that demeaned her husband in the Tyler Perry movie, The Family that Preys Together got what she deserved when her husband slapped her so heard she slid accross the diner counter top. The truth is domestic violence is never funny and never deserved, but we have to all collectively share this belief, and as long as some people think it is a personal matter it will still be tolerated. So maybe Rice has learned his lesson, and maybe he is a changed man, but society has to change and it has not.

Millionaire Gurbaksh Chahal beats his girlfriend and it was on tape, and he still walks…money talks

Gurbaksh Chahal administered 117 blows to his girlfriend and it was caught on tape, but the tape was ruled inadmissable. The police acquired the tape prior to acquiring a warrant so this tech mogul is walking the streets. Read the linked story and share your thoughts.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/04/23/gurbaksh-chahal-domestic-violence_n_5201334.html