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Bully in My Backseat

When my son was in middle school I used to pick him and a neighbor’s son up from the bus stop. The boys had been in elementary school and Cub Scouts together. My husband actually helped both boys create their soapbox cars. I thought they were friends, but I noticed that sometimes when I would pick them up they were either standing there not talking to each other or they would be talking to other children. One day one of the mothers at the bus stop told me that the boy I had been picking up was actually bullying other children on the bus. That same night the boy’s mother called me and said that she had been called in for a conference at the school. She could not believe that her son was being accused of being a bully. I couldn’t believe it either because he was so polite to me. As I expressed surprise the next day another mother informed me that the boy was actually bullying my son too. I asked my son and he admitted that the boy had also been tormenting him. I had unknowingly been carrying this bully in my backseat. I asked my son why he didn’t tell me and he was not able to come up with a reason. Needless to say I stopped driving the bully, but I never told his mother why, and I believe to this day she still believes he was falsely accused. This was in the pre-social media era. I share this story because of the recent suicide of Rebecca Sedwick. Sedwick was bullied by classmates and their relentless bullying was allegedly a contributing factor to her suicide. The local sheriff is exploring whether he can also bring charges against the parents of the girls. The parents say they did not know anything about the bullying. My question is should they be charged? How do you know your child is a bully or if they are being bullied? Do you know everything your child is doing on social media? Is it the parent’s responsibility to know? Share your thoughts.