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Take Your Dream out of Layaway (Westbow Press, Barnes and Noble and Amazon)

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My first book has been released, Take Your Dream out of Layaway is available online through Westbow Press, Barnes and Noble and Amazon. You have held on to your dream for far too long. Now is the times to make steps toward completion. It’s a step by step Christian perspective designed for anyone with a dream. I encourage you to get your copy today.


Sandy Bland’s family files a federal lawsuit because they believe she would not have taken her life

I watched this clip and i was struck by what the mother of Sandy Bland said about her daughter. She said her daughter knew enough about Jesus not to take her life. The Question is don’t Christians also have doubts and fears? Is Jesus enough? Watch the clip and share your thoughts.

Is Social Media an enemy to the church?

Over the past few days I have been struck by the role social media has played in the church. Sadly, the church rarely gets attention from the media unless something untoward is going on. Last week it was Creflo Dollar’s desire to purchase a $65 million dollar jet. Yesterday someone posted a video of a young lady who is a member of Bishop Charles Ellis’ church. Ellis can currently be seen on The Preachers of Detroit, a reality show on Oxygen. The young lady claimed there was corruption in the church and she had recently been removed from the “armor bearer ministry”. (people who aid the pastor or pastor’s wife). The young lady had been removed from her post. Maybe she tried to meet with the church hierarchy, but she also made her case to the world. So many people saw the tape that the Bishop felt the need to post a response via social media. When did church business become subject to the scrutiny of non-church members? Everyone has an opinion but why? The why is because people feel the need to post everything. From what they eat, drink, wear, go…everything. Social media affirms the greatest of the everyday. Who knows how this situation will be resolved? Stay tuned the former armor bearer is probably posting her rebuttal as I type this post.


Comedy Central Must be Stopped from Mocking Jesus Christ and We Can Stop them

One of the shows Comedy Central has in development is JC “the concept is to depict Christ as a “regular guy” who moves to New York to “escape his father’s enormous shadow.” With all the subjects available to their writing staff please tell me why would they choose Jesus as a comedic foil? Comedy Central is known for its irreverent humor, but even they have bowed to pressure from the Islamic community. “Comedy Central was the target of an Internet threat this spring from a Muslim group for a South Park episode that supposedly showed Muhammad in a bear costume. Like other media organizations, it resists showing a depiction of Muhammad because many Muslims consider a physical description of the prophet to be blasphemous. Such depictions of Muhammad in other media have resulted in death threats by fundamentalist Muslims against the purveyors.” So since some factions of the Muslim community have threatened violent retribution for depicting their highest religious figure in a comedic or unflattering light Comedy Central backed down. Well, Christians are not going to threaten violence, but we can boycott any company that sponsors this show. This show does not deserve to see the light of day but if it does let’s make sure its showing is short-lived. If you agree with me contact Comedy Central and make your voice heard: www.comedycentral.com


Mother’s Day 2010-Another Motherless Mother’s Day


Missing My Mother…Grief does Not Stop at the Graveyard

 My mother died almost 30 years ago.   She was so young that I can not imagine what she would be like now.  She was just a few years older than I am now. It is even more difficult to believe that I have lived more of my life without her than with her. My mother and I had a very close relationship. I was not a rebellious child so the conflicts we had were very minimal, but I now wonder what she would think about the life choices I have made. I now grieve for what never was. She was not here to help me plan my wedding or even meet my future mate. She missed the birth and growth of my children and I missed having her here to guide me through the mind fields of motherhood. As a young woman I was unprepared for my mother’s death. Most people see the tragedy in young children losing their mother, but once you cross the threshold of adulthood people believe you are able to cope with the loss. Yes, you do remain functional you are no longer wailing and lamenting at the loss of your mother, but there is an incredible void that simply can not be filled. During the initial mourning period I remember people mouthing all the usual platitudes: “I’m as close as the phone”, “call me if you need anything” or the worst “I know how you feel”, and let us not forget “she is in a better place.” What??? Well I want her right here with me.  I wanted to scream “why don’t you call me. I’m the one that lost my mother” or “no you don’t know how I feel”, but instead I smiled and nodded as they said the things they thought would make me feel better. What I have learned is you never get over the death of your mother, but you do get on with life, but your life will forever be divided into before my mother died and after my mother died. My father died 4 years before my mother died and while I mourned his death it was a different kind of loss. I still had my mother to help me through the loss of my father, and I remember even then saying I miss my dad, but I knew I could not live without my mother, but that too was simply untrue. After my mother died I remember losing my sense of compassion. When other people would lose their mothers I would be sorry for their loss but there was also a dark part of me that would be saying welcome to the club.   I think there were two people who kept me sane during the dark period, my best friend Stephanie and my Aunt Bernie. Stephanie lost her mother the year after I did so we could share thoughts with each other without fear of judgment, and my aunt provided a listening ear in the midnight hours when I simply needed to ask again and again “why?” What I didn’t think I understood then or now how the grief never goes away. Your happiest moments are always tempered with grief.  I remember redecorating my bedroom the year after she died and being so happy with the outcome, but a part of me was sad that I was happy. On my wedding day I remember waking up at 2AM to a tear-stained pillowcase because she would not be there to share the day with me. I miss the fact that she was never allowed the privilege to be a grandmother. She always loved kids and she would have had such a good time spoiling mine. My mother was the person in my life that saw me through a non-judgmental prism. Is my story unique? Probably not but it is not the kind of story that people are not comfortable sharing aloud or hearing. One thing you find when you lose a mother and you try to talk about with people who still have theirs they don’t want to hear it. As we age the death of parents becomes a common occurrence but when you are young and most of your friends and family members still have theirs you will find that it is a lonely road.  One of the saddest aspects of her death is not being able to make her real to my children. They don’t miss having a maternal grandmother because they never had one. You can’t miss what you never had. I share stories with them but it is like I’m reading a fairytale to them. In the early eighties we were not blessed with the kind of technology we now take for granted. We didn’t have video cameras or camera phones to help keep our memories alive. I have pictures, but the one dimensional version of my mother is insufficient to express who she really was. A picture can not capture the generous spirit that radiated behind the loving smile. In this post mom period of my life I have been able to surround myself with people who love me. I have a husband who has learned to recognize the sadness, but he knows when I want to talk or when I need to walk through it by myself. I have smiled as I see some of the traits of my mother in my children. My children share her loving spirit. My mother was one of the kindest people you would ever meet, but when you pushed her you did so at your own peril. I now can help someone who has lost a mother walk through the pain. Instead of saying “I know how you feel.” I say “I know how it feels to lose a mother.” It has taken me almost 30 years, but I can now be happy with no reservations. I can now rest assured that she is in a better place, but it took decades for me to get to this space. So on this Mother’s Day I can smile at her memory, and also smile because I do know that I have grown into the woman she prayed I would become.


15% of African-Americans Are Unemployed, and Today I Became One of Them

Everyday you hear of companies laying off workers. You see the faces and listen with compassion as you hear the stories. It affects you, but it does not really become personal until it becomes personal and today for me it became just that. I lost my job today but it was not as if I did not see it coming. I think I saw the tide turning months ago but I did not want to see it. I wanted to just hope against hope that things would miraculously change. As I was packing up my desk I thought of the book Who Move My Cheese by Spencer Johnson. In it the author uses two mice and two little people to illustrate the point as they scurry around looking for cheese. Cheese could symbolize anything in your life. They had been used to getting the cheese from one particular place and it had simply disappeared, but the reality was it had been dwindling for a long time, but they refused to see it. So once it was gone they had a decision to make. Did they sit and gripe or start looking for more cheese in other places. At this point I am still taking it all in. I have not started looking for more cheese, but I know I will eventually have to, and I also know that sitting and griping is not an option for me. The first thing I will do is re-read the book, and over the next few days I will develop a strategy. Today I am one of the unemployed, but that is not a definition I wish to have for long.

PS If you know of anyone looking for a writer let me know!!!!!


Some Believe the Killing of Dr. Tiller Was Justified—What have We Become?

This afternoon I was reading stories in reference to the killing of abortion Dr. George Tiller. Most of the articles say that the killing was a heinous and reprehensible act, but while reading an article on the Fox News Network I was struck by one of the comments: “What kind of church would allow an unrepentant murderer of babies to be a member of their church and on top of that an usher! I honestly do not feel bad about the Dr.’s death nor do I feel bad for his family. He was responsible for the murder of thousands of babies. His family by all accounts supported him. It may sound harsh but justice was finally carried out for this murderer.” I did not post the entire comment but the hatred spewing through is frightening. When did we as a country start condoning vigilante justice? Like it or not this man was doing something that was legally sanctioned by the state and he did not deserve to die like this.


Abortion Doctor Killed in Church…Who is to Blame?

Today Dr. George Tiller was killed in church. He was serving as an usher and he was shot to death. Tiller was a vocal proponent of abortion, and he performed a number of late term abortions. This is why he was killed because of what he did. He was performing a completely legal act and he paid with his life. Whether you are for or against abortion you can not believe that what happened to the doctor was fair or just. The rhetoric on this issue tends to run high on both sides. Rational people have the ability to control their passion and some do not. Tragically today Dr. Tiller encountered someone who could not.


Employers Gone Wild!!!!!

Everybody is familiar with the Girls Gone Wild series. College and high school girls are running wild and semi-naked on the beach. There is drinking and carousing in a hedonistic atmosphere. It is an anything goes situation and that is what we are witnessing in the employment arena. Companies now know that jobs are tight and they can do anything they want to the workers. They know if you quit there are at least 100 people waiting to replace you the very next day. One of my friends told me that her employer had a quick huddle with them and said the workers healthcare costs were going up, and now the employee contribution would be double of what it had been. In the past news like this would have warranted some discussion and some clarification, but in this case it was a simple edict. Another friend’s company had sent part of the work to a foreign country to cut the cost of paying American workers. Now that country is under siege and some of the work might be coming stateside so get ready to pick up the slack. The employer has all the marbles and he is not inclined to play fair because he does not have to. So this is the age of the employer. They write the rules and they can re-write them anytime they get good and ready, and judging from what I see they are rewriting them as you read this post.


Miss California Took A Stand, and it Probably Cost her the Crown

Sunday night the Miss USA pageant was held. Miss California was asked if she believed gay marriage should be the law of the land? The judge that posed the question was gay blogger Perez Hilton. She responded that she believed that marriage should be between a man and a woman. What is interesting is this is the same opinion that then candidate Barack Obama expressed on the campaign trail. She did not win and she contends her answer to the question cost her the crown. Hilton has since called her “stupid” on his video blog. The fact is Hilton probably gave her a low rating after her response, but that opens up another issue. On this kind of contest should the contestant be penalized for what they think or is this a beauty pageant? If the judges are not analyzing looks why are the contestants parading around in swimsuits? Are they being judged on poise when answering a question or is it content? The beauty of America is that opposing viewpoints are tolerated, but with every action there is a reaction. The beauty contestant had a right to speak her mind and Hilton had a right to vote his conscience.