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Does the word sassy bother you?

Last night while watching Being Mary Jane I was struck by a single word used repeatedly. That word was “sassy”. Mary Jane’s boss was expressing his disappointment at her behavior and he said that she had been sassy two different times during that week. Why did they use that word in the script? it just seems that particular word is used more often to describe the behavior of black women. Share your thoughts.


What does BET Being Mary Jane want?

The question for the ages is “what do women want?” Books have been written about it, panel discussions have attempted to answer the question, and neighborhood barbershops are abuzz with it every weekend, but no one knows the answer.The  answer is unique to every woman.   The series Being Mary Jane finale episode was on the other night. The lead character Mary Jane was being romanced by an older man. He prepared a special “Aladdin inspired” dinner for her. he decorated the patio area and used candles of various sizes to light the area. For all his efforts he was rewarded by hearing her describe his work as “corny”. Her callous matter of fact response left me asking the question “what does she want?”  Too often men are bashed for doing nothing, but too often women trash their efforts when they do too much. So what is the answer? Share your thoughts.

What do Being Mary Jane, Scandal and Blurred Lines have in common?

Last night was the finale for Being Mary Jane. Did it leave us hopeful or sad? It depends on your perspective. Mary Jane has a fantastic job, a dysfunctional family and a complicated love life. She is the poster woman for you can’t have it all, but at some points during the finale you just wanted her to have some. This show is the latest must see among black women, but the real question is why? Why do we applaud a woman who seems to find her happy at the expense of another woman. In the real world the sidechick is despised but more and more the sidechick is celebrated. Scandal was the forerunner to the celebration of the sidechick. The character Olivia Pope is another successful black woman who finds her happy in the arms of the married president. We know this is all fantasy but it begs the question what are women willing to settle for? Is securing a portion of a man’s heart enough? Have we blurred the lines so much where this is the new normal. During the Tiger Woods scandal a few years ago we learned of Woods’ serial unfaithfulness, but we also saw countless women proudly stand before the cameras and say yes I was with Tiger. It was a parade of sidechicks who loved having their 15 minutes in the spotlight. The other day I saw Gabrielle Union who plays Mary Jane on The View. The sidechick question surfaced but Union brushed it aside, but it can’t be. She and Kerry Washington are the stars of very successful shows, but when the storyline portrays them as women knowingly engaged in relationships with married men they are the sidechick and the lines are not blurred.

BET Being Mary Jane has something for everybody

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Last year I watched Being Mary Jane the movie. I found the plotline interesting a number of levels. Mary Jane is the successful black woman that is forced to navigate her life in a way that not only pleases her but also pleases the people in her orbit, and that is a difficult task. She takes care of her extended family in spite of the fact that they rely and resent her success. The movie was enough to bring me back last week to watch the first episode last week. Last week we saw Mary Jane navigating her love life and we were left to ask is this show for my demographic? I was very surprised to find out my mother-in-law had watched the show and she simply said “it’s not for me”. So I was ready to write it off as a show for Generation X, Y and Z, but last night I decided to try it again and I must say I am glad I did. Last night’s episode dealt with a number of topics but one that struck a chord with me was the Angry Black Woman syndrome. Mary Jane’s right hand woman a Latina had gone behind Mary Jane’s back and offered to help another struggling network show. Initially she gave Mary Jane the impression that the opportunity had been thrust upon her but later in the episode we learned she had sought out the opportunity. When Mary Jane expressed her anger her co-worker tried to deflect her anger by accusing her of always being angry. This struck a cord with me because far too often the righteous anger of a black woman in the workplace is dismissed, deflected or simply ignored. Too often the word is “that’s how they are”. I loved it when Mary Jane challenged the caricature and forced her co-worker to not only acknowledge the game, but to also apologize for doing it. The family dynamics are also fascinating. Last night we got the opportunity to learn more about her parents and how their marriage works. Her brother and his daughters also add to the mix. The oldest daughter is pregnant and yearning for the love that her baby daddy does not seem capable of giving. It was heartbreaking to watch her wait for him to go to the doctor. Her own dad had to state the obvious—the baby daddy was not coming. All of these characters along with her lovers are a part of what makes Mary Jane tick, and I think that over the next few weeks it will be interesting to get to know Mary Jane and her family.