Happy Fathers Day …Let’s Celebrate Dad

FROM FATHER’S DAY 2010
A few years ago we were planning a Father’s Day program at church and we were saying that the fathers needed to be given an instructional sermon. After the discussion my pastor asked us a simple question. He asked “why do we celebrate moms on Mother’s Day, but on Father’s Day we choose to lecture them?” We had never looked at it quite that way we were lecturing them. That is what I feel we have been doing to black fathers for years. The community and the media have fashioned an image of the black fathers and so many have collectively bought into the myth. Don’t get me wrong I know there are many fathers who are not truly fathers they are merely “babby daddies”, many who frequent the Maury Povich Show. Last year we heard of Desmond Hatchett of TN, he has fathered 21 children by 11 different women, and he is only 30 years old. He works a minimum wage job and is not financially able to take care of them. Although he is a sensational case, he is not reflective of black fatherhood. There are thousands of black fathers that work everyday and take care of their children. They love their children and spend quality time teaching their children how to be better people. This group is ignored by the mainstream, but they are there for their children everyday. So today let’s celebrate dads. I especially celebrate my late father who taught us at an early age how a man should treat his wife and daughters, and to my husband and father of my children who instills wise counsel and good values into the lives of our children. It is a hard job, but so many of them do it well, and today is our day to just say thanks.

Meet the Press features black shooters in wake of racist white shooting at black church


Watch the clip and share your thoughts.

UPDATE: Meet the Press received a lot of push back on this segment and Chuck Todd issued this response.

We’ve gotten a lot of feedback about the gun video we showed on Meet the Press today. Some were upset it only featured African-American men talking about their regrets of pulling a trigger. All of the men in the piece volunteered to be a part of the video and the larger project it is a part of.

But the last thing we wanted was to cloud the discussion of the topic.

The original decision to air this segment was made before Wednesday’s massacre. However, the staff and I had an internal debate about whether to show it at all this week. When we discussed putting it off, that conversation centered around race and perception – not the conversation we wanted the segment to invoke.

We decided against delaying the segment because we wanted to show multiple sides of what gun violence does in this country. We thought the issue of gun violence in our culture and society was an important conversation to continue — too important to put off for another week. The consequences of gun violence should not be hidden.

As I say to all audiences, Meet the Press should make all viewers uncomfortable at some point or we are not doing our job. I hope folks view the gun video as a part of the conversation we should all be having and not the totality of it.

We Shall Over Come…At This Point I’d Settle for We Shall Coexist

We Shall Overcome is the go to song whenever there is a civil rights conflict. The people stoicly sing it as an anthem that projects hope and resolve, but is it realistic? Do we actually know “deep in our hearts” that overcoming is an option? As i have watched the Charleston coverage this week I am struck by the fact that we are quoting Dr. King’s words of 50 years ago and they seem relevant in 2015. That does not give me hope it gives me a sense of despair. I’m not one of those people who say nothing has changed since King’s death, but we have to accept there are some deep seated thoughts passed on through generational lore that will not change. Grandparents and parents pass on their life experiences to there children and children take that to heart. The South Carolina Church killer spoke about things that the killers of Emmit Till probably said to him as they tortured him to death over 50 years ago. Racism is real and lives today among us. Not just in the South but everywhere. Not all racist are killers and not all racist would self-define. We can’t change the hearts and minds of everyone and singing We Shall overcome might give a sense of peace while we sing it but after the last note is uttered we walk back into the real world we need to find a way to simply coexist.

Brian Williams is a liar, but that is the one thing he can not admit

What do you call someone who tells you a lot of things that are not true? A liar, but not if his name is Brian Williams. williams sat down today with Matt Lauer and he admitted that over his 20 year career he had done that but he refused to categorize it as lying. Why was he reluctant to use the word lie? As a journalist he can’t admit it. he would have no credibility left. Williams is embarking on his next phase at MSNBC and he has to still protect his brand. Williams is a lucky man. It is obvious he is liked by the boys on tp and that’s why he is getting a second bite of the apple, but will anyone ever believe him? Share your thoughts.

We Shall Overcome, but when?

Today I have been consumed by rage.  How could someone come into a church sit in a Bible study class and then kill 9 people. I have watched and listened to some of the church members and family members share their thoughts. They have talked about how their faith will sustain them. I am left in awe to see how they can move from the immediacy of the tragedy to an embrace of their faith. Where is the anger? Where is the rage?The Bible says you can be angry but sin not. Anger is an acceptable response to anarchy. Sometimes I think people of faith attempt to be too stoic in the midst of chaos. It is ok to be mad, it is ok to ask why. We don’t have to stand strong all the time. We can weep, we can rant, we don’t have to be the MLK for the new millennial. Today anger is acceptable–embrace it. #Just1Day.

Don Lemon called Uncle Tom while covering the Charleston Massacre


Share your thoughts.

Are churches too welcoming?

Churches welcome anybody. You can come dressed up, dressed down, downtrodden, depressed, and stressed. Whosoever will let him come, but do we need to re-think the churches approach to people? On Good Friday my pastor was ministering on stage and a man walked from the back of the auditorium to the stage and attempted to give the pastor a note. No usher stopped his progress. Fortunately, he was harmless, but what if he had an evil agenda? We have got to be more careful. When Dylann Root walked into Emanuel AME church last night did anybody feel uneasy about his presence? We might never know, but what this tells us is we live in dangerous times and we have stop being politically correct. If someone looks odd or out of place we have to stand up boldly and ask some questions. We might offend some, but we can only apologize later if we are alive. Root is still on the loose and people will be asking why? There is no answer, but we have to accept the sad fact there are no safe spaces. So we have to learn to pray with eyes wide open as we worship the Lord and keep an eye on our neighbors.

Matthew 26:41-“Watch and Pray…”

Have you seen Dylann Roof?

dylann roof
Here is the man accused of killing 9 at the South Carolina church. Have you seen him?

Shooting at an African American Church is a Hate Crime

Last night 9 people were killed at a prayer meeting held at a Charleston, South Carolina church. The shooter a white male in his twenties is still on the loose. He opened fire on people at Wednesday night prayer and Bible study. Right now the goal is to find the killer. We will deal with the why later. It is evil and heartbreaking. Christians are called to forgive but today we are simply called to grieve.

What do Donald Trump and Rachel Dolezal have in common?

This is a week for self proclamations. Yesterday Donald Trump announced that he is running for president. He is the self-proclaimed greatest businessman to walk the face of the earth. At least according to his own opinion. He gave a rambling speech that managed to insult some ethnic groups and other right thinking people. He has the ability to suck the air out of the room, and no matter what outrageous statements he makes the media will be there to provide airtime and a platform. Yesterday Rachel Dolezal showed she is no slackard when it comes to getting media coverage. She identifies as black. Yes, she was born white, but she is denying that part of her existence. She has said she lived in a tee pee, and she has since admitted lying about that. She had claimed she had been to South Africa, and she lied about that too. She has attended a HBCU, and sued the school in 2002 as a white woman, but now she is proudly a black woman. A “sista”, but only when she wants to be, but why the Trump comparison? She has managed to make her fantasy a national story. This week she has managed to do the impossible. She has out-Trumped Trump. Never have I seen so much coverage of a non story. She was a local chapter president and now she is more recognizable than the national president of the NAACP. By the way can you name him?  If you put NAACP president in Google Rachel’s story comes up. Yes it is a good week to be Rachel Dolezal.

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