Janay Rice married Ray Rice after the elevator knockout…why?

Ray Rice is now a former Baltimore Raven. It is hard to believe that the NFL did not see that video until today, but the reason he was let go is because we saw it. Sure we knew an altercation happened on that elevator, but when you see it you can not ignore it. Rice abused his wife that night and she was further abused when she appeared at his press conference and apologized for her part in the incident, but they both knew what happened that night and she still married him. She said “I Do” to her abuser, and that is heartbreaking. How could she say yes to this mess? No, this is not victim bashing this is simply asking the question “why?” In marriage we all live with something, but abuse should be a non-negotiable. The media will be talking about this for a week and then they will move on, but what is the lesson here? I was watching SportsCenter earlier today and one of the pundits referred to her as a “girl”. She was not a girl she is a woman, a wife, a domestic violence victim. What are we teaching our daughters? How could a young woman marry a man who had knocked her unconscious? Did her relatives and friends know the details of the event? Did they tell her suck it up this man is a millionaire? This is domestic violence and it happens every day and we have to talk to our children. Our sons and our daughters. Share your thoughts.

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  • cttaylor  On September 9, 2014 at 12:12 am

    Ebony, this story is not rocket . . . It is all about the dollar. Ray Rice was exploited by the Ravens, NFL, and his wife. None of them were concerned with his issues as an abuser. Their only concern was how to make money off of him. Nowthe truth is out, and everyone, including Janay Rice has to save face, so they are not seen for what they really are . . . Users. Let’s face it was a business decision from the beginning for all parties involved.
    TMZ is the devil laughing all the way to the bank at the lies, greed, and hypocrisy.
    Janay will demonstrate her true love if she stands by him now. Chances are this marriage will not make year.

  • elogam  On September 12, 2014 at 1:36 am

    “For better, for worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer”. Those words mean something to people. I doubt she waited until her wedding day to ponder them. This couple had been together for quite some time. He made a very poor decision that I suspect is NOT his modus operandi, otherwise we’d have heard people coming out of the woodwork telling the tale. I’ve heard this woman speak, and she’s no airheaded dummy. I think she genuinely loves him and is satisfied that he has taken necessary steps to make sure it does not happen again.

    He messed up big time. He’s paying for it both professionally and financially. They have a daughter together and he has said every day he has to find a way to discuss with her what happened when she one day sees this on You Tube. (More likely, some weasel will take it upon themselves to make sure she sees it at an early age and stick a microphone in her face to catch her “reaction”. ) This will probably be a LONG time in resolving, and they will need time to heal. But I will keep them in prayer for their marriage. I’d love to see them together twenty years from now, leading a ministry for abused women/men and helping THEM to heal their marriages.

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