Paula Deen admits using the N-word…raise your hand if you are surprised?

Paula Deen, daughter of the south, self-made fatback cooking millionaire has admitted under oath that she has used the n-word. She has used it in anger and she has used it conversationally. What part of this is surprising? Deen grew up in a south that called black men and women girl and boy from the time they were in the cradle until the time they took residence in the grave. Times have changes and language has changed, but she is a daughter of the old south, and that south yearns for a simpler time. A time when everyone knew their place and dressed accordingly. Deen supposedly wanted blacks to dress as servants at an event she was planning. So is Deen a racist? I don’t know and we would not know this about her if the court deposition had not become public. What would surprise you is to find out that some people you might call your friends use the word more often than you know. So do we boycott Deen? Start an online petition against her or simply chalk it up to how she was brought up? Share your thoughts.

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  • Bill  On June 20, 2013 at 12:41 am

    I have a suggestion; if the n word is so offensive then why don’t we boycott everyone that we have personally known to have used it. And let’s dispense with the double standard and apply it equally to blacks as well. I suspect many of us could end up very isolated. I will believe it is as offensive as most claim when it becomes virtually absent from the lexicon.

  • Docile Jim Brady – Columbus OH 43209  On June 20, 2013 at 1:07 am

    I told a female co-worker who used the n-word that I would not use the
    ƒ-word in her presence if she would not use the n-word in mine.

    She agreed and we both kept our word .

  • Spanish Inquisitor  On June 20, 2013 at 6:20 pm

    I recently read “Devil in the Grove” by Gilbert Kind, which won the Pulitzer this year. It’s about a case that arose near present day Orlando, Florida, in which a white girl accused (falsely) 4 black men of raping her, and the almost natural reaction of the local white population to want to lynch these men without a trial. This occurred in the late 1940s, and involved the local Sheriff who actually murdered one of the men, maybe two of them, and tried to murder the survivor. Thurgood Marshall was involved in the case on behalf of the national NAACP, and the case went to the Supreme Court. A death sentence was regularly imposed on blacks for raping white girls. As you can imagine, the “N” word was used consistently and constantly throughout the book. The horror of living through that can’t really be described adequately, but Gilbert King does a good job, and I would highly recommend the book. I don’t think I, as a white man who was born the year of Brown v. Board of Education, could really appreciate what blacks had to live through on a day-to-day basis, and being called a n##ger repeatedly had to wear you down, to the point that one simply had to accept it. It is so fraught with a sense of inferiority, and diminution, and hatred, and pure utter bile, I can’t think of a word that, when applied to whites, would engender the same feelings or meanings.

    That being said, society HAS gotten better. The attitudes are under the surface with many people, but time is doing away with that KKK mentality. Dean was probably brought up with that mentality, and like many things, her upbringing shaped her in good ways and bad. At some point, however, I hope blacks can get to the point where the word is …just a word, one without the ability to define the black experience, to the point where it will not have the power it historically has, and still has. When you can hear the word and allow it to have no effect on you, is when the word will stop being so taboo. Until then, in some small way, you’re still a slave…to a word.

    I hope that doesn’t offend…

    • Docile Jim Brady – Columbus OH 43209  On June 21, 2013 at 6:07 am

      Well said .

    • musesofamom  On June 21, 2013 at 11:55 am

      Your response is not offensive. It is simply through the lens of a white man. The word is beyond offensive and I don’t just say this when it is used by whites. Sadly, the word does have power and frankly I don’t think it will ever lose that power. When it is hurled people know that it is meant to demean.

    • Bill  On June 21, 2013 at 5:07 pm

      S.I., I can think of no other bantering in which you and I have engaged where we have been more in agreement. I don’t think anyone could have more eloquently expressed my view of the use of the “n” word and its total lack of effect upon me as you did. That word does not define who I am as a black man nor does it in any way ascribe the human or social value that I place upon myself. I personally find it extremely dismaying that there are so many members of the black race who fail to recognize that the “n” word is just another word and the effect that it has is determined by the hearer. To internalize it as having so much power over the feelings and emotions does nothing less than relinquish control of ones feelings and emotions to the speaker of it.

      I absolutely refuse to grant that power to anyone, particular those whose intent is to emotionally wound me. And I agree with you that until that view is acquired, we will continue to be slaves to that word. It seems my view is simpatico with that of a white man’s. So be it.

      • Spanish Inquisitor  On June 26, 2013 at 3:50 pm

        That’s well put, Bill. I tried to say that, but was a bit reserved, not really knowing my audience that well. Plus, I’m not really all that qualified to comment, being outside the historical and personal experience.

        If you like history, you might enjoy that book I mentioned. It’s both fascinating and horrifying in a train wreck sort of way….

  • swalker  On June 21, 2013 at 2:37 pm

    A new online petition was started yesterday 6/20/13 on for Food Network and product sponsor to discontinue affiliation with Paula Deen.

  • Norriscool  On June 21, 2013 at 7:35 pm

    Its 2013 why should blk folks concern themselves with what paula deen, or what white folks say about us, we’ve wasted 40yrs trying to prove something to wht folks, like house negros, remember, its not what they call you its what you answer to, its not about what they think of us ( blacks) its about what we as bm / bw think of youreselves, thats whats important.

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