Uncle Beats Nephew Over Facebook entry…is this a good thing?

PROFANITY USED ON THE CLIP

This clip has been making the rounds. Apparently the nephew had created a false “thug” persona on Facebook. The uncle has the boy admit it was in fact false, but the uncle is standing there administering a “whooping” with his pants sagging. You also wonder why didn’t he just have the boy delete the profile without loading this clip on Youtube? It simply leaves me with mixed emotions. Tell me what you think.

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  • Bill  On January 7, 2011 at 3:39 pm

    The uncle was obviously taking a stand to preserve the dignity of their family because “they don’t come from that kind of s*&t. You gotta love the irony.

  • Greg  On January 7, 2011 at 5:05 pm

    One thing is for sure, he has definatly got his nephews attention. Whether it was the right approach to take is not for us to judge. We do not know the circumstances in that house. As far as I am concerned the Uncle is my HERO!!! Where the kids show out We as parents and guardians must show out also. It shows that he has love for his nephew. Too many times we as adults are passive about things like the kids posting the video as being innocent. Who knows how many lives will be saved from this uncles reponse to this kids negative post. Ido not care about the language used.

  • David  On January 7, 2011 at 6:14 pm

    My opinion is split on this video. On one hand, I commend the brotha a taking a direct interest in alleviating the desire of his young charge to glorify behaviors and activities that not conducive to the identification of his family or black men in general. Although humorous AS HELL, his approach was a bit excessive. Unfortunately, the state of affairs has gotten to point where excessive means are almost necessary to offset the damaging images that our youth are being inundated with. However, I have to disagree with this brothas perpetuation of the same stereotypes that keep us looking like the proverbial butt of jokes to the rest of society(no shirt, sagging pants, exposed underwear and foul language). With that being said, I found it both refreshing and reprehensible at the same time. The question remains though, if he didn’t do something; who would have?

  • Tabby  On January 7, 2011 at 6:41 pm

    Well the language was strong but obvioiusly the uncle’s feelings are even stronger for his son. Talk about old school, but it works. When the government started interfering with parenting that was that start of the increase in crime and children killing their parents. We must train a child in the way he or she must go and not be passive.

  • Mo Rage  On January 7, 2011 at 7:25 pm

    Beating on someone is never, repeat, never a “good idea”.

    Never.

    The uncle should have discussed it with him. This only promotes violence in our larger society. I wouldn’t even think you’d have to ask the question of whether it’s a good idea or not.

    • whatever  On January 11, 2011 at 3:06 am

      So if he sits down and talk it over with him. What happens next? You actaully think he would have listened. I talk to my kids all the time, hell they still go back and do what I said don’t do. But if I spank their behinds, I get better results. Mind you, it takes a lot for mine to get spanked.

  • musesofamom  On January 7, 2011 at 7:29 pm

    Mo it’s a blog. Questions are often posed to promote discussion.

  • Casey  On January 7, 2011 at 10:18 pm

    Great job! If it is to be its up to me! The uncle did the right thing. We are talking about how the uncle was dressed and the language he used. First of all, he was at home; therefore, lounge around attire is appropriate. Second of all, he was passoniate about the disrespect his nephrew brought to the family. Who cares what lanaguage he used? His nephrew understood! He is my hero!

  • toya  On January 7, 2011 at 11:57 pm

    I feel u im bringing my kids to u when they get out of line LOL, On the real note you r rite im a young parent and imma woop my kids azz when they get out of line as well! We need more uncles,aunts, and family like you! MUCH LUV

  • Sarah  On January 8, 2011 at 12:32 am

    GO UNCLE!!! This is one the nephew will remember, if only we had more parents involved in this way. Thank you

  • elogam  On January 8, 2011 at 1:34 am

    So many of these comments reflect what I know and feel. This is a black man, trying to raise a black child to be a black man. How he is dressed, etc. is irrelevant since he is inside the house. How he addresses the young man MIGHT be questioned, but I assure you the youngster won’t forget it. I actually DO have an issue with him putting the video online; you should not humiliate your children publicly like this.

    Those saying he should have just talked to the boy, we don’t know what actions he took previously. When I spanked my children it wasn’t on a whim. They knew from the get-go that they had done wrong. Thank goodness this man cares enough about the boy that he disciplined him.

    • whatever  On January 11, 2011 at 3:10 am

      Why not post it? Hell when I got whippings, I got it just where I showed out at. Grocery Stores, Malls, etc. The young man was thought to be hard on facebook, so he got what he payed for. He was forced to make an ass of himself, a little more than he had already posted. As far as the cuss words. I can only imagine what the nephew posted on FB.

  • PattyMayPearceofBatonRougeLoosiana  On January 8, 2011 at 10:24 am

    “Whoopins” should only be administered as a last resort or in extreme cases.I have no idea if it was warranted in this situation….but if the child was threatening the lives of others, than I have no pity for him. The public humiliation (posting the beating on Facebook) was unnecessary.
    Beating your child is not always the answer. This video is an example of what is wrong with the way black people raise their children.Not all. But I’d say the vast majority(I am a black mother myself, FYI).Just look at the previous comments if you need proof. Most are applauding this uncle’s actions.And lets just be honest with ourselves, black parents resort to ass-whoopins more than others.

    When you resort to violence when disciplining your children, which is exactly what this uncle did,(and I don’t give a HOT DAMN if you agree with that or not. It is a fact and not up for debate)you’re teaching your child that its O.K. TO resolve his/her own problems with the use of violence.

    Studies of childhood development indicate that children who are beaten are more likely to display aggressive and violent behavior when they get older…..hmmmmmm. Could their be a connection between violence within the African American community and how we discipline our children? Science indicates that their is.

    Beating your children prevents them from learning how to solve their problems in a humane and sensible way. Rather than resolving a dispute in a peaceful manner, they wanna whoop somebodies ass. This isn’t right. We, black parents, need to fundamentally change the way we are raising our children.

  • David  On January 8, 2011 at 3:50 pm

    @PattyMay, I agree wholeheartedly with your point that violence begets violence. Here is the the issue that I have, lets say this kid was pretending to be something that he wasn’t (a stone cold killer), and his uncle, who clearly is his male role model; walked in and discovered that he was engaging in these dangerous acts, because of the circumstances maybe he acted in a manner that he thought was appropriate. It would appear to more civilized individuals that his actions were barbaric but, if your only knowledge of dealing with that kind of behavior has been with corporal punishment how do you remove yourself from that. Understand that we’re dealing with a circumstance where the extended family member is administering the punishment, his choice of vernacular is less than favorable, his attire is questionable and his approach seems to be lacking any form of diplomacy. In light of all that the only question that really crosses my mind is “was his choice of discipline effective?” This young man is representative of a growing problem in our communities and this uncle appears to be an effective, albeit excessive; solution.

  • David  On January 8, 2011 at 3:54 pm

    In addition, in order to change this; there has to be a concerted effort to communicate with people like this on THEIR LEVEL in order to break this cycle of madness. We can’t expect to achieve balance within judgement, they won’t hear you.

  • aleks  On January 8, 2011 at 4:14 pm

    I understand the Uncle was sticking up for his whole family and was quite upset at what the boy said but to go as far as beating him and publicly embarrassing him on the internet was going too far.

  • Anon  On January 9, 2011 at 4:21 am

    I completely agree with the uncle. This wasn’t much of a beating – nothing like he would get from real thugs or in prison by trying to act out his wannabee inclinations.

    He clearly loved his nephew enough to correct him. He was in control of himself and not just wildly hitting his nephew.

    Proverbs 23:13-14 (King James Version)

    13 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.

    14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.

  • afather  On January 10, 2011 at 6:31 pm

    We all want to complain about kids and how they disrespect everything and that things were better in the past when they we were afraid of our parents.
    We know that different people need different punishments. Some people you can talk to some people you can’t. Me and my brothers grew up afraid of being punished by my dad9(we are all over 6’ 6” and over 250 lbs.) We respect woman, are not in jail, got a good education and it’s because we did not understand what we needed at the time to be men but did wat we was told until we did.

    1. The beating was not bad that’s a big boy and a little belt The kid never cried out or cried..
    2. They are home and you can dress like you want I hope.
    3. No one is going to come back later and say the uncle did not care and just let the kid do what he pleased.
    4. It’s embarrassing not abusive ( big kid little belt).

    I have a 2 ½ old daughter I will smack her hand if she reached for the stove because she does not understand Hot yet but she does understand a smack on the hand.

    I am from the generation of “Because I said so” not the generation of explaining why I don’t want you to do it.

  • KingoftheInsane  On January 11, 2011 at 2:06 am

    in regards to how the uncle is dressed, did anyone ever think that his pants are coming down because the belt he was using to hold it up is the same belt he’s using on his nephew? c’mon people. take just a second to think a little.

  • whatever  On January 11, 2011 at 3:15 am

    As far as the Uncle’s Pants……MAYBE HE TOOK OFF HIS BELT!!!!!! Hello!!!!!!!

  • Kimmie  On January 11, 2011 at 7:00 am

    I can guarantee you the uncle probably has “discussed” these issues with his nephew many times…you obviously have never been around a hard-headed teenager. There is a difference between beating on someone and discipline. The uncle was issuing discipline. I prevented my husband from disciplining my nephew a year ago–he had totally gotten out of hand…he has been in so much trouble before and after—–including with the law. The minimum bail for even the smallest of crimes is around $15,000 to $20,000—that does not include legal fees—which are probably double…after a conviction, many young black men cannot get employment for years upon years….You can tell from the way that the nephew responded to his uncle that he has much respect for his uncle and is probably a good kid deep inside. As far as the sagging pants, well that’s what happens when you take your belt off—which in my opinion was put to good use… he probably hurt the boys feelings more than really hurting him at all….

  • Cheri L.  On January 12, 2011 at 6:01 am

    My only thought is this:

    1.) This boy isn’t a child, he’s a teenager. The “whoopin.” he’s getting isn’t going to damage him physically or emotionally the way it would a little kid. He KNOWS why he’s getting whupped, and he UNDERSTANDS the why for it.

    2.) He’s also fully clothed, and getting whupped through jeans. Yes, it hurts, but that is the point.

    3.) That boy was going online talking about RAPING AND MURDERING PEOPLE. Now I don’t know about the rest of you, but I feel that joking, bragging or whatever the hell it was he was doing about that sort of thing deserves a sound whoopin’.

    I personally am SICK of the “Gangsta” lifestyle being worshiped and treated as a desirable way of life. if any of these kids had any real idea of what living that way was really like, they’d avoid it at all costs. Glorification of drinking, smoking weed, stealing, vandalism, rape, murder, and cop killing is despicable and just plain wrong. Kids today don’t react to the standard modes of discipline any more. With some of them, embarrassment is about the only thing that works. And if embarrassing your child is the only way to get his/her attention, I’m all for it. Now if this person was to do this sort of thing over and over and over again, that would be excessive and abusive, but a one-time thing…hey, if that’s what works, do it.

  • Quinta:  On January 15, 2011 at 5:43 am

    okay. Here are my opinions to the video
    1st off this wasn’t really a ass whoppin. Do u notice that the boy is almost the same size as the uncle??? And not 1 tear or scream came outta the boys mouth
    2nd off the boy was puttin his gang affilition out 4 the public 2 c so the uncle did the same 4 his punishment
    3rd off the uncle was very pissed of n idk how many angry black ppl y’all have been around but when we r man, that’s it we r mad, cursein is kinda the least of your worries
    4th- the uncles pants r sagging because he prob just snatched his belt & shirt off
    And last but not least, he did what he felt like he had 2 do, has the world 4gotten about tough love? I’ve gotten worse ass beatings then that and when I look bac at it I thank my family for keeping me str8

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